By Dr. Diane Sizer and Dr. Sarah Lynch

Understand What’s Beneath the Behavior

For many children and adults, the fall season brings a sense of renewal. Parents often feel relieved to return to daily routines after the unstructured summer months. Kids may be excited to meet new teachers and make new friends.

But for some children, the school year can trigger anxiety, mood shifts, or behavioral challenges that disrupt family life and affect academic and social functioning.

The first step in helping your child is understanding what’s really going on. It’s easy to dismiss negative moods or disruptive behaviors as “normal kid stuff” or “typical teenage angst.” While that may be true for some, others are struggling with deeper issues — such as undiagnosed learning challenges, bullying, or even depression.

Sometimes what looks like defiance is actually anxiety. And the impact of social media or online content — especially when a child isn’t developmentally ready to process it — can heighten stress or even be traumatic.

Build Connection Through Everyday Moments

Getting your child to open up isn’t always easy. Anxiety can make kids afraid to say the wrong thing or get in trouble. Some feel safer keeping their thoughts to themselves.

Spending quality time together is one of the best ways to build trust and communication. Dr. Sarah Lynch, a Clinical Psychologist at Southampton-based Growth Opportunity Center, notes that many parents worry their child spends too much time alone in their room, scrolling on their phone.

“But parents are often modeling the same behaviors in the family room or at the dinner table,” she said.

Put your phone away when you can and do something to connect with your child. Find a shared interest and make family activities a priority. It doesn’t have to cost much — go for a walk, visit a playground, or play a board game. Even joining your child in a video game can be a great way to connect.

Invite your child’s friends to join in. And never pass up a chance to drive your teen and their friends somewhere — those casual moments often lead to meaningful conversations.

You Don’t Have to Figure This Out Alone

If you’re concerned about your child, talk to your spouse, partner, or trusted friends. No parent has all the answers. Other parents can offer fresh perspectives and may share similar struggles.

Listen closely and collaborate with your partner. You might be surprised by what you learn when you’re open to new ideas.

Also reach out to teachers and school counselors. They see your child in a different environment and may have valuable insights. Sometimes they have concerns they’ve been hesitant to share — your outreach can open that door.

When to Seek Professional Support

It’s tempting to “wait it out” and hope it’s just a phase. But early intervention leads to better outcomes.

Watch for signs that may require professional help:

  • Refusing to go to school
  • Intense or frequent outbursts
  • Poor grades or homework resistance
  • Ongoing peer problems or bullying
  • Skipping meals or refusing to eat
  • Constant need for reassurance or repetitive behaviors
  • Awkward or withdrawn social interactions
  • Frequent crying or loss of interest in activities

Dr. Lynch, who also works as a school psychologist, emphasizes: “Any sudden and noticeable change in behavior is a sign to seek professional help.”

Finding the right therapist can take time. It’s okay to request a consultation or evaluation before committing. Make sure the provider has experience with children and adolescents. Ask for a clear explanation of what’s going on and how they plan to help.

If it doesn’t feel like the right fit, it’s okay to switch. What matters most is finding someone your child feels safe with.

Let’s Work Together to Support Your Child

If your child is struggling — or if you just want to strengthen their emotional well-being — Growth Opportunity Center is here to help. Our team of experienced psychologists and counselors offers compassionate, evidence-based support tailored to each child’s needs. Whether you’re seeking guidance, evaluation, or ongoing therapy, we’ll walk alongside you every step of the way.

To learn more or request an appointment, complete this interest form or call 215-947-8654.

You don’t have to navigate this alone. We can build a path forward together.